LookOutFor

Things to look out for, not really steps you can take, other than to beware.

Unexpected memory

Be prepared for the unexpected memory. You may have thought you'd done a great job of returning each other's things and cleaning out all that debris. There's going to be at least one more thing stashed somewhere, probably someplace completely unexpected or totally oddball, and you are going to run into it at an odd moment. Be prepared. Maybe at a holiday, perhaps while pulling the ornaments, you might find theirs, maybe with a stocking, etc. Thing easily forgotten that ambush you when least expect it and knock the wind out of you. Here are examples of places that people have found things, maybe if you check these places proactively you can prevent some of this. If this happens to you, consider adding to this list what unexpected memory surprised you and maybe it will surprise fewer people in the future.

• Boxes of holiday ornaments / decorations - look for their ornaments, stockings etc.
• Your wallett(s) - look for their business cards and/or photos
• ...

That urge to call.

Don't call/email them, no matter how much you want to. At least for a while, even if you do want to eventually transition to a friendship. You may want to delete their number(s) from your cell.

What ifs.

Beware of and avoid dwelling on all the what ifs. What if you were still together, where would you be living, what if you only said/did this or that, would they still stay with you. Avoid playing countless scenarios of the things you could of said or done for them, and the fantasy of what you would be doing if you were still together.

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